Unless you’re President Trump, chances are that from time to time your confidence could do with a bit of a boost.
Even the most seemingly confident people suffer blips in self-esteem, and so many of us can experience low levels of confidence on a daily basis. Whilst this obviously isn’t ideal, I think it’s comforting to know that none of us are alone in feeling these feelings!
There isn’t a magic wand that can be waved to instantly make you feel confident…my GOD I wish there was. BUT, there a few simple tricks you can use, and exercises you can practice, in order to help boost your confidence in the long-term.
1) Make a list of all the things you’re good at
We all have days where we berate ourselves and believe that we’re bad at absolutely everything.
But this simply cannot be true.
Taking a moment to recognise the things that we’re good at is a really useful trick to help battle these feelings. Write down anything you can think of, whether it’s cooking, organising, walking, being a great pet owner, your awesome parallel parking skills…write them all down.
Knowing you’re good at so many great things, no matter how big or small they may seem, is so important to recognise.
2) Set yourself a challenge
Getting outside of your comfort zone can be uncomfortable (sorry!) but it’s vital for personal growth.
Yes, for some people this will be booking a bungee jump or trekking up Kilimanjaro, which is super cool if that works for you.
But challenging yourself can also mean booking into a new fitness class that kind of intimidates you, or chatting to colleagues when you normally keep to yourself. You could even learn to cook something new, or take up that new hobby you’ve been putting off for years.
Do something that scares you just a little bit, and enjoy the new found spring in your step!
3) Surround yourself with positive people
Something I’ve had to learn in life is that sadly there are some people out there who get a kick out of bringing other people down. Often it stems from their own insecurities and has nothing to do with you.
You don’t need to expend your precious energy on them.
Make a list of all your favourite people – maybe some of them you don’t know that well, and some of them you do – then have a look at the list and make a conscious effort to spend more time with whoever you wrote down.
By surrounding yourself with positive and happy people who ‘get’ you, you’re going to feel so much better about yourself.
4) Tell people how you feel
As the old adage goes, a problem shared is a problem halved, and it’s so so true.
Talking things out and letting others know how you’re feeling can be a really positive thing. If you’re lacking confidence about something, talk to someone, ask their advice, and tell them to be honest with you.
Pick someone you trust and truly listen to what they’ve got to say – I bet they have more confidence in you than you do, and their support will give you a boost just when you need it the most.
5) Stop comparing yourself to others
It’s so easy to look at other people and wish you had their life. But remind yourself that nothing is never how it seems from the outside. Everyone has their issues, and everyone is dealing with some sort of crap.
Focus on yourself first, what you’re doing, and what you want to achieve. If you find following certain people on Instagram makes you feel bad about yourself, simply stop following them. Honestly, you’ll feel so much better for it!